Paulo was walking around, minding his own business, enjoying his life. Suddenly, he found himself in a hole. The hole was so tight so he just stood still and did nothing. Suddenly, it rained and the hole slowly started filling with water, and the man cried for help. A counselor happened to be walking by and sat down by the hole. The counselor asked, “how does it feel to be in the hole?”
Paolo never thought about this so he started to think about how he felt — focusing on how he felt. After what seemed like hours, the man stood up and said, “Sorry, I have to go somewhere else and if you have time next week, and you’re still there, maybe we can talk…”
Paolo was frustrated and a doctor happened to be passing by; He asked the doctor for help and the doctor asked Paolo, “How does it feel to be in the hole? Was there ever a time when you weren’t in the hole?” After 5 minutes, the doctor started writing a prescription and left it with Paolo.
Paolo was however still stuck in the hole and it was night time. A guy passed by and Paolo asked him for help.
The guy said, “Alright.” and jumped into the whole.
Paolo asked, “Why did you jump? I’ve been here the whole day! How are we gonna get out?”
The guy said, “Well, I’ve been here before…”
You see, in life, we all have different holes. That’s what essentially differentiates us. Whilst I may not fully understand your story, I fully understand my own. I may not know what it’s like being you, but I have my own story to be able to emphatically relate to some elements of your story.