The Tough Lady Archer


First Time

She was 18, she sent me a message asking about her treatment and that she was afraid that her family will find out about her status.  She stopped contacting me for a while and then she came back one day, asking for help for her shingles.


We set up a meeting but she never showed up, a few days later, she messaged me asking about her meds for shingles.  We found a way of getting the meds to her through a volunteer near her school.


A deafening silence kept her away from treatment. From time to time, she would say hi but it ends there.  No action to seek treatment. Her focus was her school.  She graduated eventually, started to work. But no, treatment is still not her priority.

Fear was her main issue, subconsciously she has prioritized fear over treatment.

You Finally Came Back

She said  she  would finally seek treatment, she went back to RITM but she was asked to pay for your CD4.  I referred you to some free CD4 services. And silence followed.  It wasn’t until a few months after that I found out she never sought the CD4 services I referred to you.

Last week

She was concerned with a recurring cough. Persistent mostly.  She messaged me, but her fear was still there, that her mom doesn’t know.  A few minutes later,  she again messaged me, she told her mom. And everything’s fine.  She asked me to talk to her mom and we talked for an hour over the phone.  Her mom’s a health worker and she understood what her daughter was going through.  Her mom was asking, “Where did I go wrong?” but she said she wouldn’t want her kid to know about her question.  Her mom was mainly concerned with one thing, treatment.

This coming Monday, she and her mother will go to a private clinic for baseline.

And well, I guess this is a start of an entirely new story in the life of a young transwoman.

And I’m happy for her.



About +daddy+drEw+

HIV awareness and treatment Advocate & Activist. Living with HIV since 2007. A friend. A partner. A dad to the HIV Community.
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