WARNING: THIS BLOG MAY CONTAIN STRESSFUL INFORMATION FOR SOME. PLEASE DO NOT READ IF YOU FEEL YOU ARE UNABLE TO HANDLE STRESS AT THIS TIME.
REDx was initially formed as a 2013 year end party “title”, it then evolved as a reference for a group of PLHIV friends in Twitter. It is not a formal group registered with the Securities and Exchange Commission nor is it a Non Profit Organization.
#REDx never had written objectives and goals. As a peer group, we would have gatherings in the hope of creating a support system for PLHIVs. We would have dinner meets, coffee moments, sports events and yes, even out of town activities. We are a group of friends leaning on one another for inspiration and support. We altogether celebrate success, and we altogether mourn for those who succumbed to the disease.
We do not claim to be a professional organization helping those living with HIV/AIDS. We are friends and we hope to make more friends.
THE REDx YEAR END EVENT.
December 14, 2013. We had more than 50 guys in one resort. We had a carpool system, an exclusive venue, sumptuous food, lively games. No expectations but to have fun. Since we are not a formal organization, we do not and did not have formal sponsors. People had to pay for their own expenses. And undoubtedly we had pure unadulterated fun — which is ALL WE WANTED.
THE REDx ORGANIZERS.
The organizers are all PLHIVs wanting to make each and every meeting fun. They would take on the effort of making each and every new attendee feel welcome. Furthermore, they would take on the extra mile of making ocular inspections of venues & conduct logistical preparations to make sure everyone would enjoy the venue, the activity or the event.
THE REDx ATTENDEES.
The attendees are all PLHIVs wanting to have fun. No negative mindsets. No negative expectations. Just fun. We do not have a clear set of rules on who can attend, except that the person is a PLHIV enrolled in one of the HIV treatment hubs, and that he (or she) will not be a cause of any negativity in the group.
- Have fun.
- Meet new friends.
- Respect people who do not want their pictures taken. No secret picture-taking. No posting of pictures without permission.
ALL PLHIVs ?
No. We openly welcome any non-PLHIV who is in a long term relationship with a PLHIV — only that someone should have been known or met by most of the organizers prior to an off site event.
OUR CREDENTIALS TO HOLD AN EVENT/MEET UP.
We do not need a formal set of credentials to show anyone as we do not force anyone to be friends with us or anyone in the group. We do not need to be accredited by the Department of Health to be able to have fun with our friends. We do not coerce anyone to join any activity or he (or she) will be banned from the group. If we announced an open invite, anyone who willingly joins the activity will be welcome, so long as he (or she) does not stir any negativity in the group.
We hope to reach out to various hubs and meet new PLHIV friends. We hope to meet community based support groups who we can run to should we need formal support. Love Yourself Foundation, the AIDS Society of the Philippines & Red Ship have shown their support one way or another. And we appreciate that.
DO WE HATE PESSIMISTS?
We respect diversity. Our friends come from a very diverse background and we respect one another. We have people from various industries, coming from different schools & locations, with distinct personalities. We have both introverts and extroverts joining us for coffee and badminton.
What we will not tolerate is someone bashing us from behind with no apparent reason whatsoever. What we will not tolerate is someone influencing the rest of our friends to not be responsible in taking care of their health. What we will not tolerate is someone with a sheer lack of poise to handle his (or her) situation to the extent of being destructive to others.
What we will not tolerate is people showing up and pretending to be someone other than the actual twitter handle he is supposedly known for. This person ( @levyronplus ) showed up in an Ortigas gathering and did not introduce himself, he met everyone else but no one knew who he was, then today he twitted talking about privacy:
Please be careful with groups organizing parties that are not accredited by DOH. Exercise your legal rights. Your privacy is important.
We have enough issues here and there, we don’t need people causing us undue stress. We already have that given factor in the society that we live in.
We are not perfect. We all have moods from time to time and we welcome people occasionally bitching around over (what others perceive as) small issues, we are FRIENDS. Friends bitch around. Friends argue. Friends disagree. Friends forgive.
We are not perfect, we can never be perfect… But we are not saints either.
THE REDxSUMMER event.
We are in the process of planning the summer activity. As always, every PLHIV is welcome to join. We do not have sponsors and as such, we will have to pay for the expenses of the venue, transportation, meals and other related expenses. We are not accredited by the Department of Health but we do not need any accreditation. As friends, we will look after the safety of one another. As friends, we will ensure one another’s confidentiality.
And yes, as friends, we will bitch around and have fun as long as we can and create new memories of friendship and fun.
REDx is not ours or anyone’s property. Friendship is all we have in #REDx and we hope to build and create new ones as the days go by. #REDx is yours. #REDx is you.